When Jonathan and I created our website ChristianMarriageHQ.com, we felt it was necessary for our first post to explain the meaning of a Christian marriage. In this article we explained that having a Christian marriage is not just a married couple who believes in Jesus but who also studies his word to find out how to operate within their marriage. Today I would like to focus on Trust. Trust is something that is hard to have again once it is broken, however if we have a Christian marriage as defined above, it is possible.
Many of us have taken part in an activity called Ice Breakers! Ice breakers are games that people play in the beginning of a meeting or gathering of people to whom we are not familiar. It is a way to “break the ice” amongst strangers. One ice breaker that is probably the most difficult for many of us to participate in is the trust exercise. In this exercise one person turns their back to their partner and falls back.
The responsibility of the other partner is to catch the person who is falling. This is a big deal because ice breakers are usually done with people we do not know, so the trust exercise forces us to trust a stranger to catch us while we are falling. If we can trust a stranger to catch us when we fall, we should be able to trust our spouse to catch us when we fall. Can your spouse trust you when they fall? No doubt everyone makes mistakes but how long will you let your marriage unravel because you are not willing to let go of your spouse’s mistakes.
I am reminded of a story from the bible found in John the 8th chapter. A story of a woman who was caught in adultery, the people wanted to stone her to death. They came to Jesus to ask him what to do. They were hoping to kill her that afternoon, however, God intervened. I believe before Jesus responded to their question he was praying to God for a solution and his writing in the sand was meant to distract the people while he was praying. When he was finished praying he said. “Let those who have never sinned cast the first stone.” Since no one is perfect the crowed left and Jesus said to the women, “Go and sin no more.”
Jesus started his forgiving process toward the women by pointing out to the crowd that they have also sinned. Then Jesus gave her another chance. The first step to trusting someone again is to acknowledge that you haven’t always been trust worthy either. We do not forgive our spouse because they are trust worthy we forgive them because God is trust worthy.
What does God say about trust? In Proverbs chapter 29 verse 25 we find this scripture verse:
“Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.”
Your marriage is ordained by God and since God ordained it you can trust him with it. Forgive your spouse so that you all can have the great marriage that God has predestined for the two of you.
Do you have a Christian marriage? Are you seeking God’s word to help you learn how to operate within your marriage?
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