The devil has been after Christian marriages since Adam and Eve were in the Garden Of Eden. His desire would be to see every Christian marriage fall apart and turn away from God. I don’t know about you but I am tired of seeing our fellow brothers and sisters in Christ on TV for reasons such as giving into the flesh through divorce, affairs, or some form of abuse toward children. I am currently reading a book entitled “Passion and Purity” by Elisabeth Elliot. This book is geared toward single women and men in Christ, however, I believe that even Christian married couples would benefit from this book as we are reminded that we can overcome our flesh and have victory in our walk with Christ.
Too often our marriages get stuck in a rut and are drawn away by the first person or thing that interest us. The enemy makes us believe that the grass is greener on the other side. Why do we fall for that belief? We know that anything that draws us away from God is not better for us. In Galatians 5:22-25 the bible is clear about the behavior that we must have in order to be considered followers of Christ. “22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. 24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. 25 Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit.”
How can we overcome our flesh and win the victory so that we can remain true to God and our spouse? Here are a couple of tips to help us fight our flesh and walk in the spirit.
1. Spend time with your spouse– If you find that your relationship is stuck in a rut do something about it, don’t wait for your spouse to take the lead. Become best friends with your spouse and find an activity that the two of you can do together. A few examples of things that the two of you can do together are take a walk together after having dinner or read the same book and discuss it.
2. Desire only your spouse– Who do you love? How can you desire only your spouse? Increase the amount of time that you and your spouse make love within a given week. God created intimacy in such a way that we grow closer to our lover every time we make love. Take turns initiating sex. Try to make love every day for at least one week and see if you notice a difference in your desire toward your spouse or your spouse’s desire toward you. The husbands will be satisfied with the increase in intimacy. For the wive’s ,you may choose to explain to your husband on the days that he is to initiates sex he must also find another way to connect the two of you as well.
In Song of Solomon 3: 1-5 we read of a women looking for her lover. Her feelings for him were so strong that she would not rest until she found him. This is the kind of love we should strive to have with our spouse. A love that is so strong that no one else will satisfy us except our spouse.
Challenge: Increase the amount of time and intimacy that you spend with your spouse this week.
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